Dating While Trans

Dating can be difficult for transgender people, but I've found it get's a lot easier in time. I think there's a lot more acceptance and understanding than when I first came out, but I also sometimes have cis assuming privilege and have a lot more confidence. I am bisexual, meaning I don't care about what's in someone's pants, I care about what's in someone's heart. In my life I have been with many different kinds of people. I've had some bad experiences, but I've also had many great experiences. I've fallen in love and fallen out of love. The most important lesson I've learned is to focus on loving myself and focusing on my own happiness and needs first.

 Ethical Non-Monogamy/ Polyamory

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Reply to @oliveisfamous also setting boundaries, voicing your needs, and taking time to be alone ARE SO IMPORTANT ##polyam ##polyamorous

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Reply to @mckenziestearman yes, but not always right away if we meet in person. I usually tell them over text to ensure I’m safe.

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Reply to @eli_wants_it_all I usually tell people I’m trans pretty quickly, but sometimes I don’t. I always have before sleeping with someone though.

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Idc if you wouldn’t date me or aren’t attracted to me because I’m trans, but be respectful. I deserve that.

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Reply to @official_jamjam_ I also don’t like to be objectified or fetishized. I just want to be treated like an equal human being.

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Reply to @yaaaaaahhhh11 I give straight men permission to be attracted to me

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Reply to @betheyboops gender roles are so unnecessary but they became expected of me. ##genderoles ##gender ##dating ##lgbt ##trans ##foryoupage

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Reply to @smartassjen I saw him again today! We smiled at each other. Maybe there will be a part 3 □□‍♀️ ##trans ##storytime

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Reply to @user8412524606544 I’m ##bi ! I don’t care about what’s in the pants. I care about what’s in the heart. I usually prefer to ##date ##trans men□

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Reply to @all4love_love4all about that time I almost hooked up with a lesbian.... she was respectful, complimented me, & politely turned me down

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Reply to @_savvy.smith_ politely say you’re not interested. I’m proud to be trans and many people-including straight men-would be proud to be with me

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Reply to @nat.shit.crazy here’s some food for thought ##trans ##preference ##heartsnotparts

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Was she just being nice or was she flirting? ##wlw ##bi ##trans ##dating

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Reply to @nadnerb96 I highly recommend the book, ‘Trans Am: Cis Men & Trans Women In Love’ by Joseph McClellan

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Reply to @crissaraujo8 love overcomes all obstacles. ##trans ##transdating ##dating

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[Part 3] Here’s the tea ☕️ comment if you’ve been here since part 1!

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Reply to @21stcenturyvole it’s typically not difficult for me anymore, but I still fear the possibility of violence against me

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Reply to @dove_92 I hope you enjoyed this story □

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Reply to @_shroodle_ trans women who haven’t had bottom surgery or who don’t want to are real women too.

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Reply to @user00856060 if a man is attracted to me, that attraction is heterosexual

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A video I made on Valentine's day about my experiences dating since I've transitioned. It can be very difficult sometimes, but I've been on lots of really pleasant dates. Don't worry about not finding someone if you're trans, there's hope for us yet.

 Refusing to be attracted to or date a trans person solely because we are trans is inherently transphobic. To identify as super straight is transphobic. This being said: having a body part preference is valid; and no one needs to date a trans person. I would implore anyone who refuses such to ask themselves why. ​

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