-You don’t have to understand in order to be respectful. Lead with love. People know a lot more about themselves than you ever will. Try to be patient with others and especially yourself.

-Listen! There are a lot of us (even celebrities) that choose to be visible and share our stories! Everyone's experience is different. We’ll each let you know how to best respect ourselves. It's okay to ask, but respect boundaries.

-Uplift trans voices by following us, liking our content, commenting on our content, and SHARING our content to your friends, family, and followers no matter your platform size.

-You can't always tell whether or not someone is trans. Don’t assume someone’s gender or gender assigned at birth.

-Being trans is separate from being gay/lesbian/bi. Sexuality and gender are different. Don't assume what someone's sexuality is.

-Respect pronouns. If you don't know ask! Our pronouns are not preferred, they are mandatory.

-Don't deadname people. Sometimes people change their name to feel more euphoric. This is their real name.

-Challenge anti-trans remarks! Defend your friends even when they're not around. If you witness anti-trans speak, bullying, hate, legislation, current events, etc and are silent, you are part of the problem.

-Language can be difficult. Some people don't like to be referred to as "you guys." Gender-neutral terms such as “y’all,” “you all,” “friends,” “distinguished guests,” etc are great if you don't know the gender of every person in a group.

-It's not okay to ask about or make assumptions about a trans person's genitals. Additionally, there’s no such thing as THE surgery. There are many surgeries a trans person could or could not have. It’s completely up to each individual if they wish to have surgery or disclose it to you or not.

-Don't "out" people. It can be dangerous to tell people that a person is transgender. If your friend says it's okay to let people know they're trans then it’s okay.

-Vote for trans rights. Petition against transphobia.

-Donate to Trans organizations

-Pay and hire trans people especially black trans people.

-All trans people’s experiences are different. We don’t always agree with each other. That’s okay. Not every trans person transitions or even experiences gender dysphoria.
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-There are limits! I don't know everything there is to know about being trans. I can only tell you what I know and what I've gone through. This is all based on my personal knowledge and through research and relationships with other trans folk.